儿童虐待

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往往聊到 儿童虐待，很多人会告诉我现在的孩子过度保护，我认为这两者是两件不同的事情。

过度保护儿童并不是儿童虐待的合理化的理由。


过度保护儿童是一个困扰，这需要人去建议提倡如何帮助家长，协助他们，或者是advocate for change。比如说，教育模式里，家长把教与育outsource 给老师，老师和家长的关系变成是customer 和 service的关系，这是否要去正视。然后，如何在过度保护儿童的状况下，提倡改变这一个模式。

可是
可是
可是

儿童虐待是儿童虐待。
这是一个不同的课题。


儿童虐待，就是儿童虐待，代表着孩子受身体虐待的儿童和经历任何家庭暴力，包括目睹父母的暴力行为、受过份侮辱及恐吓言语的管教方式，对儿童生理、行为及心灵造成实时及长远的影响。


儿童虐待包括：


忽视行为。它包括在一种责任、信任或有影响力的亲密关系中的各种身体和（或）情感虐待、性虐待、忽视、疏忽、商业或其他剥削，这给儿童健康、生存、发展或尊严造成了实际伤害或潜在伤害。遭受亲密伙伴的暴力有时也列为一种虐待儿童行为。


通常我遇到想要合理化这些行为，我觉得无语。


通常我面对到想要合理化没有理由的鞭打，合理化儿童虐待为我们的文化，合理化鞭打的人，我很心疼，也是心寒。我还在学习中。


这是一条很漫长的路。

阿弥陀佛
祝福你，祝福自己。

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