苦中寻找意义

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“那些有'为什么'生活的人，几乎可以忍受任何'怎样'的生活。-维克多.富兰克

 那些拥有着，明白着，为什么的人，为什么他要这样做，为什么他活着的人，可以忍受生活的如何。

 维克多.富兰克，一位犹太人大屠杀的生还者，他在当时的纳粹集中营，就是秉持着为什么而度过种种的如何被对待。

 他也是logotherapy 的创始人，也是意义治疗与存在主义分析（Existential Psychoanalysis）的创办人。

 当我们在生命中找到我们的理由，我们可以承受一切的苦。
另外一个说法是，在苦中寻找意义，我是一位家暴和虐待生存者，我无法在发生这一切时寻找意义，当时我太小，可是现在的我，因为我的过去，我的生命有了不同的意义。

 透过我的过去，我从中去塑造我的意义，我的生命的意义是我要去帮助别人，陪别人走过旅程，辅导，以便别人不需要像我一样，经历长期别家暴的过程，就算是我无法改变，至少我可以陪伴，这对我来说已经意义非凡。

 在苦中塑造自己生命的意义。

 生命中，不缺乏苦，也就因为苦，生命变得有深度，也意义，对我的意义，也因此不同。

 隽结
心灵辅导师

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